Life is full of daily challenges, obstacles, highs, and lows. We as humans are constantly evolving in some aspect. What makes that a good thing is because it’s a true indication that we’re growing. There are infinite reasons we have to grow. One contributing factor could be the people we have in our life.
The people we have in our lives serve a special purpose. They are going to teach us something. Some are just flat out no good, some will challenge you in the best ways possible. They’re in our lives for a reason. No matter what the reason may be, the end result is growth for you as an individual.
In my 30 years of living, I’ve learned of various types of people you need in your life. One constant I’ve come to know is a john. Yes, john. Like the name. Let me break it down for yall.
The first John I think we all need in our lives is a John The Baptist, let’s call him J.T.B. If you’re not familiar, John The Baptist was Jesus’ ride or die. John was with Jesus as He hung on the cross. Now I ask you, if you were currently nailed to a cross to be crucified and you did a best friend roll call, how many of your friends would you see standing below you? Remember, Jesus had 12 disciples. However, JTB was there. We can ALL relate to this. Simply put, we’re all going to go through something at some point. Be sure to evaluate your circle to ensure you have a JTB who will be there.
The second John, is Ron Johnson. If you don’t know who Ron Johnson is, then stop reading and go do your Googles to find out. Ron was Dwayne Wayne’s roommate/ best friend/ brother. Ron showed us all he had Dwayne’s back, literally. Ron held it down by stopping three ushers from throwing him and Dwayne out when he confessed his love for Whitley while she was at the altar with Byron. Don’t believe me, then go watch that episode. Again I ask, who is your Ron Johnson? Here’s a piece of golden advice, if any of your friends don’t know who either of these people mentioned are, cut off your entire circle and just start over, okay? Because they will not have your back. If there isn’t one person that will have your back in this manner, they’re not real friends.
The last John is a true trailblazer. History maker. Genius. A black woman. Katherine Johnson. Again, if you’re asking who this is, you’re excused to go complete another Google. Due to the way I was raised, I have to call her Mrs. Johnson. Mrs. Johnson was a fearless individual who is known for using her skills as a physicist to help send astronauts into space. The struggles she overcame was being a black woman working in NASA. In overcoming her hardships she is now a well known figure who is no longer hidden (Did you get that?). If you can’t find your Mrs. Johnson in your friend circle, then perhaps its you! Perhaps you are the one who will overcome the hardest of struggles to excel and be great. Use Mrs. Johnson as inspiration to keep you motivated. Imagine if she’d quit NASA, or chucked the deuces after running clear across campus to the colored restroom. Had she allowed that to hinder her, she wouldn’t be the iconic figure she is today. If Mrs. Johnson did it given how the world was in the 60’s, surely you can be great today. Honestly, not much in the world has changed.
I hope this helped you in evaluating not only yourself but your tribe as well. As you can see, a John is a necessity throughout the course of life. In utilizing your John, you are able to see how you can grow. As the saying goes, you are the company you keep.
I said all of that to say this, get you a John. The benefits will be life changing. You can’t go wrong with a ride or die, I got your back, trailblazer, trendsetter person on your team. If you have your Johns, you’re sure to prosper.